In this week's
column, Globe and Mail columnist Margaret Wente tells her Facebook Friends: "I love you, even if I don't know who you are. But you're really not that interesting. And to be honest, neither am I
". She goes on to say that "self-disclosure is highly overrated" and "narcissism is the signature pathology of our time".
Many of my flesh-and-bones friends have these views. In fact, I did too until I asked myself what would make Facebook a valuable experience. For me, it boiled down to being part of a community of fellow writers. They are "Friends" because that's the term Facebook's founder, Mark Zuckerberg, gave them, but they might be more correctly termed "fellows", defined as persons in the same position, involved in the same activity, or otherwise associated with one another (Oxford dictionary). Of my Facebook Friends, there are probably fewer than five I know personally, although most I am familiar with professionally. Included in the fellowship are writers of children's books, crime novels, romance novels, and literary fiction. There are broadcasters, columnists, academics, and actors. By and large, their posts have to do with their current project, daily word counts, interesting articles they've come across, and, blessedly, little diversions that bring a smile and help break up the long, solitary hours of writing.
Mark Zuckerberg is Time magazine's Man of the Year for 2010. Margaret Wente makes the observation that Time's circulation has dwindled to 3.4 million while Facebook has 500 million users. Perhaps it would have been more significant if Facebook had made Time its Magazine of the Year. The point Wente makes is that people don't really care what Time has to say any more. They want to know what their Friends have to say.
I am one of those people that finds their Facebook Friends witty, inspiring, and extremely talented. It astounds me to learn what author Jane Yolen can produce in a day, what fantastic dishes Margaret Buffie has come up with this week, what lovely quilts Barbara Haworth-Attard is designing, and the trials and tribulations Giles Blunt is experiencing in his travels. Andrew Pyper and Susan Juby are wickedly funny. Paul Nicholas Mason posts the best YouTube videos. I'm grateful to them. When I was sick for two weeks with laryngitis and a sinus infection, I consoled myself with the Vicar of Dibley, which someone on Facebook introduced me to.
Even though I don't post regularly, I hope that I've passed along a thought or greeting or reference that touched someone. Perhaps, like life itself, Facebook is what you make it. I've enjoyed Margaret Wente's keen observations in her columns and books throughout the years. I think she would be a fascinating Facebook Friend to have, because my Friends are the best.